“I think we have many soul mates. I don’t think there’s one and one only.”
Jennifer Aniston isn’t looking for love — but is very open to being found by it.
“I think we have many soul mates. I don’t think there’s one and one only. I think we have soul clusters,” she said.
“I’ve had some of my friends for 35 years. I think we’ve all made some sort of unconscious agreement. It’s like when certain groups of people meet, they form a little soul cluster — a sort of common group of souls who have been put together.”
She revealed that while she isn’t actively on the hunt for a partner, she certainly hasn’t “tired of love”.
“Am I on OkCupid? No. I have zero time, to be honest. My focus has been on the show, so dating has not been one of my first priorities,” she said. “I feel like whatever [romance] looks like, it will present itself, and it’s not about seeking it out, you know?
“When it comes knocking, it’s going to be welcomed,” she continued. “I’m not like, ‘No, I’m done with that. That’s never going to happen again.’ My time on this planet has been about… It hasn’t looked a certain way. It’s my way; it’s what I’ve been given this round.”
“But I would say I don’t find any of my past has given me a reason to harden up and create a shell or a wall of “No more, that’s it, I’m closed’.”
As for what she is looking for in a partner: “A sense of humor. Strong sense of self-worth, confidence, kindness, generosity. Good people surrounding them.”
For her cover story, the “Friends” star posed topless, and explained why she had no problem doing so.
“There was a version of an outfit that we did without a top, but I’m covering my breasticles. There’s nothing offensive out there for anyone unless they think breasts themselves are offensive,” she said.
“It felt completely normal. I think our bodies are beautiful, and I think celebrating them and being comfortable in them—no matter what age you are—is important. There shouldn’t be any kind of shame or discomfort around it.”
Jennifer Aniston also provided some invaluable advice to fans ever wondering whether or not they should ask for a picture with her: If she’s at dinner — no. If you have kids — go for it.
“I try to have a rule: I only take photos with kids,” she disclosed. “It was a hard boundary for me to create because people get really pissed off at you. But you have to have limits. Otherwise you’ll just be standing there doing selfies on a corner for decades.”
As for her own selfies, she continues to resist pressure to join Instagram.
“When anyone ever says, ‘You’re not on Instagram, but you know you’re going to have to join it’, I’m like, ‘But do I?’
“Do you know what it’s like to sit in a room and watch someone struggle to put a post up, and then you’re like, ‘I think we’ve lost 45 minutes of our time together while you sat there and stared at a phone and tried to figure out what funny caption or what picture would be interesting. Really? For someone out there to go, “You know what? I don’t like it”‘.”
At one point in the interview, Tig recalled a meeting she was at with Jennifer Aniston in which the actress spotted a pile of gossip magazines in the waiting room and threw them in the trash.
‘There I would be on the cover, cradling my soon-to-be-born fictional child,” Jennifer Aniston joked. “I do that in every room I go into, by the way. Every doctor’s office… I used to go to newsstands too.”
Jennifer Aniston: The Naked Truth [Interview]
Sitting down with First Ladies costar Tig Notaro, Jennifer Aniston opens up about fame, Friends, and why she’ll never give up on love.
TIG NOTARO: I was at your 50th-birthday bash. Aside from my dancing, what was your favorite moment at the party?
JENNIFER ANISTON: Besides your dancing? I had so many favorite moments, I don’t even know where to begin. It felt as though there was so much love in that room—everybody from all different walks of my life, from birth until now. Did you meet Gloria Steinem?
TN: Yeah! I did one of those shows on PBS where they trace your roots and I found out I was related to her, so I ran up to her at your party and told her. I don’t think she knows who I am, so she was just like, “Wonderful.” Then we danced our separate ways.
JA: I’m sure she knows who you are. Someone like Gloria, who’s as smart as a whip, she knows who all the smart women are.
TN: It was a great party. I got to meet Keith Richards, so I had no complaints. The press had a field day with your birthday. How do you deal with that?
JA: You pay no mind to the man behind the curtain. You just tune it out. Filter your ears from negativity and assumptions, and try to live in the here and now.
TN: I remember one time I was at a meeting with you and they had all these gossip magazines in the waiting room, and you grabbed them all and brought them up to the counter, and you were like, “Why do you have this here? Throw these in the trash.”
JA: I did throw them in the trash, didn’t I?
TN: Yeah. I just love that you did that! Why would they have those gossip magazines when the people on the covers are the same people coming in for a meeting?
JA: Who work for you! And there I would be on the cover, cradling my soon-to-be-born fictional child. I do that in every room I go into, by the way. Every doctor’s office, every…
TN: Oh, so that’s a total hack move for you.
JA: That’s just what I do. I used to go to newsstands too.
TN: One person makes a difference.
JA: I sometimes think so.
TN: Jen, with all this insanity, how do you find someone to date?
JA: That’s a really good question. Do you have any ideas?
TN: I met my wife on a movie.
JA: Well, that never happens.
TN: Before that, I dated a lot of comedians.
JA: So you stayed in your wheelhouse.
TN: I like funny people.
JA: I love funny people.
TN: So are you on OkCupid or…well, what are you doing?
JA: Am I on OkCupid? No. I have zero time, to be honest. My focus has been on the show, so dating has not been one of my first priorities. I feel like whatever [romance] looks like, it will present itself, and it’s not about seeking it out, you know?
TN: When you were interviewed recently by Harper’s Bazaar, they asked you what you’ve learned about love, and you said you “never tire of it.” Can you elaborate?
JA: When it comes knocking, it’s going to be welcomed. I’m not like, “No, I’m done with that. That’s never going to happen again.” My time on this planet has been about…It hasn’t looked a certain way. It’s my way; it’s what I’ve been given this round. But I would say I don’t find any of my past has given me a reason to harden up and create a shell or a wall of “No more, that’s it, I’m closed.”
TN: Is there anything specific you’re looking for in a partner, should they come along?
JA: A sense of humor. Strong sense of self-worth, confidence, kindness, generosity. Good people surrounding them…
TN: Yeah, that’s always good. There’s nothing worse than dating someone who has the most annoying group of friends. Do you believe in the concept of a soul mate?
JA: I think we have many soul mates. I don’t think there’s one and one only. I think we have soul clusters.
TN: Ooh, that’s good.
JA: I’ve had some of my friends for 35 years. I think we’ve all made some sort of unconscious agreement. It’s like when certain groups of people meet, they form a little soul cluster—a sort of common group of souls who have been put together.
TN: If you could give young people advice, what would it be?
JA: It sounds so clichéd, but don’t worry so much. Try not to care what people think. And get into therapy a little earlier.
TN: Do you go weekly?
JA: I go throughout…depending on if there’s some stuff to unpack, which there always is. If I have time to get in there consistently, I do it once a week or every other week.
TN: So were there any surprises about turning 50, or do you feel like regular old Jen?